ATTC #2 Waiting for a BFP

There is a whole world of mommies. Mommies to be are included no matter what step of the process they are in. Many of us are out there networking online. We touch base with women across the world facing similar circumstances as well as divergent, but we all come together in places known as forums or groups. There are lots of options out there. It is sometimes difficult to determine where you fit in best.

They have all kinds of different boards within these groups. Natural mothers, new mothers, mothers over 35, mothers Under 35, mothers of children with special needs and so on and so forth. If you need to know you will find a board for you. There are pregnancy boards, birth boards, breastfeeding boards, boards about dealing with losses, and boards for those trying to conceive. The list is almost endless.

The other never ending list is that of acronyms mothers use on these message boards. BTDT, BD, TTC, BF, DS, DH, DD, BBT, O, CM, CP, EWCM, OPK, CH and BFP just to name a few. I sometimes think could I post an entire sentence written in just acronyms. I rest assured this is possible.

I am a BTDT mother. Because simply I have been there done that since my DS, dear son, is 1 and a half now. I still feel like some days I have a lot to learn from other women whether they are mothers or not. Especially now that we are TTC, trying to conceive, our second child.

With Brenton it was easy, we said hey maybe we should have a baby and surprise even though we were NTNP, not trying not preventing, it happened quickly. Now with our second we are ATTC, actively trying to conceive. I take my temperature every morning when I wake up with a basal body temperature thermometer, BBT. It happens before I move my head from the pillow after at least 3 hours of restful sleep to get an accurate reading. Then I log my temp into FF, my app called Fertility Friend. Then I look at my chart. Then I put down my phone and roll over and attempt to go back to sleep.

There is a lot that goes into charting. I also do OPKs, ovulation predictor kits, twice daily until I get a positive result of my LH, luteinizing hormone, surge. I have to tell you waiting for a positive OPK until CD25, cycle day 25, almost drove me crazy, but I made it! That smiling digital face made my real face smile back:)

Next we BD. This is perhaps my favorite because it means baby dance. Ideally you want to BD 3 days in a row once you get your positive OPK. You also want to be sure you BD if you have EWCM. I won’t say what that is but the ladies who know know what I mean!

And now after that positive OPK you wait to confirm O, ovulation. This is done when I get my CH, crosshairs on FF. Two red intersecting lines that we have O! CD 27 O! I knew it was going to be confirmed by the spike in my BBT. It is amazing the things you can learn quickly when you have a little bit of a type A personality and access to a computer and a board called “Getting Pregnant” full of women who want the same thing you do…a baby!

I rest assured that my DH, dear husband, and I have done what we can this month while we ATTC #2. When I got my temp spike I looked at Rolston and gave him a high five and said good job we did all we could this cycle. He smiled and I know although he is far more laid back than I am about everything he wants this as much as I do.

ATTC #2…This is in my signature on my baby board along with my name, Rolston’s name, our ages and Brenton’s name and birth date accompanied by my chart link and the link to this blog. Right now we are ATTC #2 and someday that acronym might change to a name, a name we have already picked out and a birth date yet to be determined, but anxiously anticipated. I can’t wait to look back on my journey when we get our BFP, BIG FAT POSITIVE, test and eventually get to tell my new LO, little one, exactly how much we did because we just couldn’t wait for him or her to join our family!

Happy Mother's Day!

This was my second official Mother’s Day. My husband and I dispute if it counts while Brenton was still in utero. He says no and I clearly say yes. In any case no matter how many official Mother’s day celebrations I have had this one was my favorite so far. We are trying to conceive our second child and it has been a little stressful for me I must admit. This day reinforced for me that I love being a mother and my two special guys love and appreciate me no matter what day it is.

Saturday was a surprise bouquet of flowers in a glass vase from the local flower shop. I recently mentioned how if he ever decided to get me flowers I wanted them from that shop and he remembered. Sometimes it is not just the gesture of flowers themselves, but the sentimental value of simply remembering a small detail. When we were young he would get me a single red rose just because as well as for special occasions. It was consistent and special. It was our thing!

Sunday I got the best gift of all. Sleep. I was able to sleep in and then when I woke the baby was sleeping and Rolston greeted me with cards from both of them and a spa package that Brenton picked out especially for me. It was perfect.

Next was brunch. Bacon and eggs and fruit. My favorite way to start the day is the big meal with the family and the bacon came out perfectly too! Afterwards Brenton played with the card he got for me because it had pop up flowers and played a little tune. His favorite cards are the cards that play music. He loves to open and shut them. He shrieks with glee. Then we were off to the store to pick up crab legs for dinner. We wandered around picking up a few additions and then I grabbed some Starbucks from the drive thru in the same shopping center just in time for Brenton to get sleepy. When we got home he was off to dreamland and I was off to the nail salon.

When I got home he was still asleep for a bit, so I watched some HGTV without a toddler climbing on me. Our next event was a walk around town and some time at the park. He climbed the steps for the first time and went down the slide. Then he decide he would walk back up the slide and he was successful. He clapped for himself. We spent time on the swings and the best sound is the sound of laughter as I pushed him higher and higher. I am not sure who enjoyed it more!

We walked home smiling and a little tired from all the fun. Then we snuggled on the couch and watched Super Why and then just a little basketball for daddy since it is the playoffs after all. A quick dinner for the baby and then some dancing and singing then up the steps for a bath and off to bed for him. After such a busy day he went right to sleep in my arms and I looked at him and thanked him for making me a mommy and kissed him on the forehead before finally placing him in his crib.

Back downstairs for a feast of crab legs! We just chatted about the day and about being parents and how much fun it is to listen to Brenton laugh and shriek with excitement. I glanced at my beautiful flowers as I went to sit and watch Game of Thrones with a glass of red wine and thought about how wonderful my guys are to me. When I was getting ready to head to bed I hugged Rolston and said “Thank you for my special day, it was absolutely perfect. It was just what I wanted”. He smiled and said, “That’s good I am glad”. I am absolutely the luckiest girl in the world!!!